stand|UP
Have you ever seen someone standing?
I mean REALLY standing. Chin and eyes over the horizon, arms resting casually as if they forgot to exist, like they forgot they had any need of pretense. Not crossed, not shoved in pockets; relaxed, calm, sure.
If you’re a human, this posture alone will make you better. If you’re a man, even an ugly mother fucker, this posture will turn you into a magnet. Women, whether they mean to or not, whether they KNOW it or not … will be allured by you (if only momentarily).
WHY?
The same reason they’ll stand staring at the Eiffel Tower or the Statue of Liberty. You are strong. You are sure. You are immovable. See, the thing women love most in men is not “good looks”. It’s dependability. Well, really, it’s more a three part checklist (and it’s simpler than you think).
What Women Want
- SAFETY
- DEPENDABILITY
- FUN/GOOD SEX/MONEY
“Safety First”
The reason this stands as a base at the bottom of our Hierarchy of Needs, is that everything (and I mean EVERYTHING) is off the table when a woman does not feel safe. She won’t dance with you, fuck you, or laugh at your jokes if she perceives you as a threat. So dudes … cut the hunting act.
“Can I Count On You?”
Well … your stance and posture say yes. Your eyes on the horizon show, whether theres anything in there or not, some intelligent internal dialogue going on. Even if it is just naked girls and sports talk radio, look the part. Find something to observe. Something that genuinely interests you, and observe it. Think about anything but her.
NOTE : Don’t look around. Don’t try to catch her staring at you. Put yourself in her line of sight and KNOW she is. Your look should say, “I own the world. What will I do with it today?” In fact, just make this your internal dialogue. Your energy will take care of the rest.
“What does she want?”
This is where it comes down to the particular woman (singular) you are fishing for. But, trust me when I say this, if you fuck up the first two (safety/dependability) it will never matter what she’s after. You’re not it.
FUN
Some women are just out for a good time. She’s out with the girls. She wants to let loose. You’re safe, you’re steady, you’ll work. She’ll dance with you, laugh with you (this girl wants you to buy her drinks) but at the end of the night … she’s not going anywhere with you. Enjoy it for what it is and don’t feel like this is somehow a reflection of your own failure as a man. You won. So did she. Leave it alone.
SEX
Here’s the interesting thing about sex. No woman stands in front of the mirror, putting her lipgloss on, and telling her Bestie, “I’m going to fuck the hottest guy I can find tonight”. WHY? Safety. She doesn’t have the same luxury when it comes to mate selection. Men don’t worry about safety. So they always think they’re going to fuck some girl when they leave for the night.
… they’re not.
A woman doesn’t have the luxury of thinking about sex until she feels safe and secure. This is not to say women have more or less sex drive than men. That’s immeasurable and varies from person to person, BUT she might REALLY want to have sex, and she might really want to have sex with YOU. So don’t just make her “feel” safe, GIVE her safety. Be sure of who the fuck you are. And let her decide.
WHAT ABOUT MONEY?
First, an apology to the strong, fit, confident, intelligent men who are true kings. She doesn’t give a fuck. And if she does … trust me it’s temporary. Here’s the thing about money. It’s confusing. Todays society measures safety and security, not by strength, that is — not be might and masculine dominance — but by wallet size.
If you don’t have money, the strong, confident powerful king she saw standing tall on the edge of the balcony … will soon find himself replaced. Yes, you are the best man in the room. Yes, when the money system goes to shit, you’ll have woman breaking down your door to protect and save them.
… This doesn’t fucking matter today.
Today, you’re a loser. So stop trying to pick up girls and go get some fucking money.
DO I HAVE YOUR ATTENTION NOW?
Good … because the posture thing was never about her perception of you.
It’s about YOUR perception of YOU.
Woman are not the flowers. They don’t want you to “pick them up”. They’re butterflies. They’re bees. They’re hummingbirds. You don’t capture them. You attract them.
Men, I’m sorry.
You’re just a flower.
So stand tall, look good (aka get money) and be a fucking masterpiece.
PEACE.
